Not Average

I have come to the conclusion that society has for the most part succeeded in detecting our image. It has detected what an ideal human being looks like, how they should behave, how they should dress etc. I have no idea who came up with these “ideals” but there is no denying they influence the way we view ourselves and others and they influence greatly our expectations.

Please explore this with me for a moment. Is there not a benchmark height, body or shoe size above or below which one starts to seem rather strange or abnormal? But what does one do if they don’t seem to fall within the acceptable norms that society has set? What does one do if one has a slightly bigger nose than everyone else or is always the shortest person in the room or of a bigger stature than everyone else?

If you always fit into the definition of what society views as normal, congratulations. You may continue reading but this particular blog is for someone who like me has those above or below average traits by societal measure.

I am 175cm tall – 5.9 feet so quite tall and some people have in the past said to me, “You are quite tall for a woman.” Yes from a very young age I towered over most of my female friends and some men too and I have received countless reminders from people, of how tall I am. Quite frankly for a significant part of my life, I despised my height but the sad thing is that I couldn’t change it. This was me!!  As I write this blog I can’t help but think that probably this is why cosmetic surgery is so rampant these days.

The fact is, there are things about us that we cannot change even though we may want to in order to fit in better but the irony of all this is that these are the very aspects that bring variety and make us even more unique. In Psalm 139, the Bible reminds us that we are fearfully and wonderfully made. Mark this; even the things that make us feel as though we are not up to standard at times.

Daily I am learning that my value and worth are determined by God, the One who created me. It’s an uphill battle, lots of pep  talks that need to happen along the way – some days better than others, but it is true, God made me beautiful just as I am. He created you as well – beautiful/handsome and unique you, just as you are.

If you can take away anything from this blog let it be that God loves everything about you and loves you just the way you are. Some of the imperfections you may now have may have come about due to the unfair circumstances of life like accidents but even then, He still loves you unconditionally. This you can count on 100%.


11 thoughts on “Not Average

  1. Amen!
    1st Samuel 16
    6 When they arrived, Samuel saw Eliab and thought, “Surely the Lord’s anointed stands here before the Lord.”
    7 But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”


  2. True my friend the society that we live in will always have a say in a lot of what happens in our lives, not sure if this is influenced by culture or it’s just something with us as a human race. It’s the same when one is not married at an age when they perceive to be the right to marry, people would start talking and same with issue of having children in a marriage the society will always want to have a say despite what would be happening in ones life!

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  3. Beautiful post Chiedza such a great reminder about what matters most in life. Our character, how we treat others this lives on and should be nurtured the most.


  4. Thanks Chichi
    At times I wonder why people waste time on immaterial things of this world. We should be guided by the Word of God which says “My people perish for lack of knowledge” (Hosea 4:6). We are all created in our own uniqueness. God created each and everyone of us in His own image. I am happy knowing I am God’s image. Whatever the appearance it does not matter.


  5. I am 6 feet tall and once somebody said “you are too tall for a woman”. Well, I said, at least my legs start where your brest finish. 😉 there is no point to worry about something you cannot change, people can be rude or cruel but you were born this way and this is just perfect! And also every generation is 4-5 sm taller than their parents. So tall people bound to happen 😆


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